@V@tabletop.social Honestly the bigger thing that appeals to me is the aspect of being able to safely explore otherwise hurtful scenarios or complicated feelings? I feel like a lot of allo people use kink for that too so it's not that different. There's still a lot of other positive feelings associated with kink for people (subspace, meltyness, feelings of comfort, safety, intimacy, ...) and those don't really go away if you remove the sex part.